Under The Rose Bush by Jane Fry

2 Jan, 2016 by

Under The Rose Bush by Jane Fry

Jane Fry who lives near me in Kenmore, Queensland has used her personal Dementia Journey to write this lovely book Under The Rose Bush which follows a young girl as her grandma goes from being a healthy, bright and vibrant woman to someone suffering from Alzheimer’s. The book is aimed at children, to teach them and help them to better understand why their relationship may change one day.

When asked about her experience with her Mother’s Dementia Jane said “I had never really had anything to do with it before my mother became ill. It was a raw and terrifying experience. It is like watching your mother waste away each year. Each year it was like watching her lose an arm, then a leg and so forth, even though she was physically there it was not my mother. I guess that’s why when she died it was not so sad as losing someone who was suddenly ill and died.”

Under The Rose Bush tells the story of Zoe and her Granny who are great friends. They spend a lot of time playing and learning together, gradually Zoe notices changes in her Granny. Zoe learns to adjust to the situation as her grandmother ages. Her story provides a sense of optimism despite the grief of eventually losing her beloved grandmother.

In a recent interview with Starts At 60,  Jane said “I guess the hope I have for Alzheimer’s sufferers is that a cure is found, but I know that’s a long way off. Since we have to face it when it comes the time, I therefore hope the carers don’t suffer and can get support to understand the process that their family member is going through, particularly later on when the sufferer may not be aware, but the pain for the close family is insurmountable. I guess I learnt that it is pointless trying to reason with the sufferer. I used to say, ‘No I didn’t’ or ‘you already told me that’ etc. as I just wanted to be right, but later on down the track I learnt that was not the way to handle my mother and I reached a more calm state, and I think she did too. I have many funny stories when I look back on my mother and her comments, some embarrassing moments, and some sad times, but I am now able to look back at my mother and really value the essence of my mother before Alzheimer’s.

“One of the nurses once explained to me, that Alzheimer’s in the brain is like a faulty battery that sometimes makes connections and other times doesn’t. You can be a stranger to your mother or the loved daughter it just depends on the moment. One day after weeks of her not knowing me, or my name, I visited her in the nursing home and she turned around and said, “Tell me Jane do you still like teaching?” It was the first time I hadn’t been able to answer her. I was flawed!”

We congratulate Jane on writing this wonderful book and highly recommend it to anyone who has children taking a Dementia Journey with a loved one.

Buy This Book

To order a signed copy of Jane’s book for $12, simply email Jane on jadyfry@gmail.com

1 Comment

  1. Michele eisa

    Very good but sad but very in trusting

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